Think someone's doing better in life than you?
Think someone's better off?
Think someone's life is easier than yours?
Think again! Jealousy can poison the soul, destroy your relationships and turn your life upside down. Jealousy can drive you crazy and only if you let it. You can learn a lot from this unhealthy emotion.
1) Ask yourself, can I prove what I believe? Albert Ellis once used a process about disputing what was disturbing you so badly. Those techniques have proved to be very successful. Is the issue real and if so can I create what I want in my life? Question your jealousy. How is it helping you and what' the pay off?
2) Accept your feelings after the reality check and ask yourself if the time is worth it? It never is. Now yourself and what's feeding your inaction to reach your goals. Clarity is everything.
3) Take responsibility for your jealousy and ask yourself "What can I do to change this". Write this out and take a look at your part in all of this. Are you playing a victim? Are you insecure? Do you feel powerless? Are you open to change? Changing is hard work and it's possible if you push yourself.
4) The things you envy you could probably develop and if your energy is drained by your jealous thoughts then frustration like crazy may develop.
5) You are who are and if your making little progress with such powerful feelings then look at writing up a new action plan. The question is "What are you going to do about this" and make sure there is a deadline.
6) If you have tried everything, then consider professional help. Try therapy and role play and discuss your feelings. Short term (brief) therapy can do wonders with a pro but shop around. Everybody is different and there is no one size fits all. Everyone has different needs and everybody looks at life differently with different backgrounds and so fourth. Change your beliefs and listen to your self-talk. Life is not fair is different than the rest of the world is better off. Read self help books and talk to others.
7) There is really no reason to feel jealous when you have multiple ways to get what you want. There are so many other options. On the other hand, these feelings did not come overnight and may not leave overnight. However, success is not linear. Try managing your life, your self and emotions differently. You have choices. You can try and experiment by using healthier habits. Try a different path. Surround yourself with people who ar stronger and don't get jealous. Heal and discover why this has become such an issue in your life. Blaming the other person or outlook on life is simply a dead end.
As for myself, I'm jealous of my time. Wasting time is the worst thing a person can do.
To be continued...
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