Bill Van Loan ~ Memorist & Strategist

Needy Men Kill Relationships and Are Very Shy To Change!!!

I receive emails everyday from women who want to change a needy guy and I say the same thing. Ask him to seek professional help and ask yourself why your staying in such an unhealthy relationship? Look at your options and look at yourself.

Another learning opportunity for those who refuse to grow up and their partners who stay...

Women are Number One in Networking and Communication Skills: Needy Men Need Help With These Skills ASAP

Just imagine if a group of women made a few changes to this classic rock opera Sleep Tight performed by Aorta. It would be superior and that's my point. Men need to learn their lessons from women if their going to maintain status and not become obsolete. The purpose of this song is to shake people up. Women and men are different and men are losing big.

Women have their communications down and men are becoming more needy. Out of the thousands of posts I've made to the Internet, still, women wanting to change needy men ranks the highest.

Needy men need professional help and lots of psychotherapy. They need to develop coping skills to increase their worth. Disfunctional men need to grow up. The women who follow them clearly deserve better and are making bad choices. There is no crime of passion committed and life is too short for picking the wrong partner. Men can change and only if they want to.

Sleep Tight with Aorta if you don't believe me and tell me how you feel. 

Desperately Needy Men To Avoid In the Dating and Working World

Many men are so insecure that just the thought of being alone scares the life out of them. The holidays hit and true colors come out. These men use women and other people to fill the emptiness that they have. This is their job to resolve and growing up may be impossible. These men are not about love and warmth, etc. that you need to produce a glorious relationship and love story.

These men will tell you a different story and hope to own your time for as long as possible. They are everywhere and look like a million dollars.

When approached, ask a lot of questions and find out why this person is so hot for you. Sociopaths (for example) will never tell you the truth and they can't keep track of their lies. Their so charming and seductive under the Christmas lights. Very tempting. Some people say the holidays are the best times of the year and you'll be saving yourself from missing out on the moments that mean the most to you by picking better options.

These men will try to push your buttons and try to train you from the start. They have a lot of experience with manipulations. Their childhoods reveal role models you would never let your Mom meet. Needy men see others on a menu that never ends. Just another object to play with. Enough is never enough and in their eyes, what's yours is theirs.

Say no to people that don't fit in your life and be assertive. Needy men need professional help and are a must to avoid. Relationships with emotionally healthy people have brought me the greatest joy of my life and I wish you the same as Thanksgiving approaches. I have compassion for needy people. They may never change and end up missing out on the meaning of life.

Bottom Line: Be unavailable for users, losers and abusers who just want to drag you down to their level. You deserve the best and what their looking for will leave you feeling desparate and depressed. Many people report missing the warning signs until it's too late and the holiday is over. Be a non-victim.

Celebrate the Holidays and celebrate the wonderful person that you are.

Drama That's Just Not Worth It is Revealing and Addictive!

I think if you can end your day with less drama and not more, you'll be better off. Seems obvious? Some people just crave drama as in the more the better and there is no light at the end of the torture tunnel.

Some people will go without eating if they can bite into just a little more drama and drag it with them. Some people will make a big deal out of nothing and that is their greatest passion in life and they admit this.

Are you one of them and is there a pay off for you?

Practice Saying No To Users, Losers and Abusers

Say no and be assertive to people who are just wasting your time. Is it hard to say no? Are you afraid it won't sound right?

Practice and save your time for people who really care about you.

Needy Users, Losers and Abusers (Men and Women) Don't Deserve You

So things have changed in your life and for the better. Perhaps you have new eyes to catch those lies that users want you to believe ever so badly. It's their nature. They just love to put you down so they can build themselves up. What about your nature?

If you associate with the wrong people, your time is killed and you are judged accordingly by others and yourself. Accept your mistakes and move on. All you have is the moment so live in the present and do what's right for you.

If you give an inch to the user, they will want a yard and then the pool. Give yourself the love you have always wanted and leave the users in the dark.

Who's needier? Men, women or the insatiable need to consume anothers persons life. Practice being confident and say no to abusive people for the rest of your life. And you don't need permission to protect yourself.

Your new life just started seconds ago. What will you do with it? It's not easy but you can do yourself right. It's all up to you and what will you do!

You deserve better!!!

Sleezoids are Not April Fools - They Can Use You Up If You Let Them!

Does that sum it up on April Fools Day - 2009? Practice making friends with people who really care about you and want what makes you so hot to shine.

Abusive people look and sound great until you get burned and then you know you've made a mistake or did you? That's a scary thought Isn't it? So many people take a wrong turn here.

It's hard to change and break away from the cycles of bad faith but it's possible. Some individuals have experienced so much damage that they can't seem to feel what's right anymore.

Solicit professional help because enough is never enough in an abusive relationship. Heads bump faster than hearts beat and the sleezoid always wants more. A sleezoids appetite is insatiable and a crime of passion is almost strangling.

Feel like your sick? Throw up your bad habits and take your life back before you lose it. That's no April Fools Day joke.

Open up a new door in your life and let the sleezoids pass by.

Warning! Needy Men and Women are Moving Targets For Users

Needy people are taken advantage of all time and in the worst of ways. Needy people need professional help ASAP. I mean faster than I can write this column.

Needy people go nowhere faster than you can blink an eye and the only thing you can do is help them help themselves. Encourage lots of therapy before they get themselves into trouble that blows every nightmare you have had away. That's scary. It's real.

Needy people are victimized and the stories are simply endless. If your needy and frustrated with your life then don't waste a second and get some help.

Needy people, shy people catch HIV faster than any other type and end up psychologically broke if not dead. Coping skills are essential to producing a life worth loving and being too dependent on another as opposed to being independent can be hazardous to your health.

Think about self-reliance.

Think about your life and what your doing with it.

Think about your story. Do you like it?

What will do about the needy issues you have and when?

What's your action plan?

Do you have a clear vision of what all this looks like?

Needy people have no idea how good life can be because their so needy. I hope they change and focus on getting what they want out of life.

Anyone can change but do needy people want to? Hard work and hard pain are involved. Change is challenging but possible for the needy person who longs for more and desires a life worth owning.

Increase your awareness so others don't throw you off and burn your best efforts. Pay attention - your life is ticking away, like it or not, and it's up to you to save it.

It's your job to rescue yourself. Who else could do it better and who needs you more than ever than yourself?

It's time to change and this is your wake up call...

The Psychological Tapestry Of Healthy and Unhealthy Relationships

Tough Times

What you allow into a relationship can grow into something good or bad. Dating and other relationships are a lot like being stuck in rapid transit. It can feel so good that you end up missing something that flew right by.

Slow down. If it happens to fast, it can fall even faster. Try and pace yourself. Get to know this new person before you end up wishing you never did anything in the first place.

Take as long as possible. Protect yourself from the users, losers and abusers of the world and take your time. In the long run, you'll be glad you did and have a much stronger relationship.

Ask as many questions as possible. The abusers can't hide forever and with your research, they may not hurt you as much or at all.

In this tough economy, everyone and everything stands out.

How will you stand and how will you look at others? What will you stand for?

Tough times or good times? You make the call in uncharted territories. It's your life. Are you getting what you want?

It won't take a life time...

Anyone Who Uses or Abuses You Is a Loser and Does Not Belong In Your Life - Period!

Life is too short to work or live with jerks. Maintain a zero tolerance against abuse at all times and you'll probably be a lot happier.

Don't compromise your life. It's not worth it.